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Subtitle: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents Lindsay Gibson tells it like it is. There is a lot of clear analysis of the ramifications of dealing with emotionally immature parents, without any waffling about, “Maybe the kid is the problem after all.” Emotionally immature parents are held responsible for falling down […] Subtitle: The Emergence of Nurturance Culture Recommended to me by: Nora Samaran’s online essay The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture This book contains three of Nora Samaran’s powerful essays (also available on her blog) and dialogues with other writers that expand on the themes of nurturance, attachment, shame, gaslighting, gendered violence, and […] Subtitle: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life Recommended to me by: a client A clear analysis and set of tools for bringing your energy back to yourself when you have been wrapped up in caretaking someone who is volatile and focused on themselves. In the book, persistently difficult people are […] Subtitle: Remembering Ourselves Home The gorgeous, inclusive cover and introduction/dedication to this book grabbed me. For the rebels and the misfits, the black sheep and the outsiders. For the refugees, the orphans, the scapegoats, and the weirdos. For the uprooted, the abandoned, the shunned and invisible ones. May you recognize with increasing vividness that […] Subtitle: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone Recommended to me by: reading Brene Brown’s other books I liked this book a lot better than I liked Rising Strong. There is less material, but it is more coherent, and it directly addresses crucial tools we need for the current political situation. […] Subtitle: Healthy relationships after childhood trauma Recommended to me by: a client Relationships are hard for everyone. For people with less-than-adequate caregivers early in life, the difficulty feels personal, a cause for shame as well as sadness. Laura Brown, a feminist psychologist, kindly lays out the likely consequences of early attachment wounds and repeatedly […] Subtitle: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love This book was published in 2010, and is still fully relevant – except the “new!” around attachment theory. Once you get past the initial “amazing!” hype, this book is practical, encouraging, accepting and compassionate. While I’m talking […] Subtitle: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain & Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict & Build a Secure Relationship Recommended to me by: Nora Samaran I bounced off this book the first time I tried to read it. The second time, I got past the over-simplified initial examples and cutely simplified brain science to […] Subtitle: The Two of Us Recommended by: David Mitchell I love the diverse couples on the cover of this book. They create a sense of inclusion and emotional safety right away. Sue Johnson introduces Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in “Hold Me Tight.” EFT assumes that adult attachment is natural and normal, and that it […] Subtitle: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path I read and liked this a long time ago. I’ve been recommending it to folks lately, so I reread it to refresh my memory. The part I remembered and liked was the encouragement to be yourself in dating. Show up as you are, and […] |