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“The Left Hand of Dog” by Si Clarke

November 16, 2024 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Subtitle: An Extremely Silly Tale of Alien Abduction, Starship Teapot #1
Recommended to me by: free download offer on mastodon (now expired)

The dedication at the front of the book says, “For everyone whose mind is reeling from, well, everything and who can’t cope with another serious novel about serous people dealing with serious problems. Not right now.”

And the content notes are “Anaphylactic shock, minor injury to a dog. Also, please note that trans women are women. Trans men are men. Non-binary people are who they tell you they are. This book is not for TERFs.”

With that reassuring beginning, the book starts out with Lem and their dog, Spock, settling in to a camping vacation, and proceeds immediately to the silly alien abduction. A group of alien abductees soon coalesces and works on getting back home. There are universal translators, but each person has to come up with their own names for individuals and species they meet, since sound production varies so wildly between aliens.

Silly, warm, with just enough danger to keep the plot moving forward. This book delivers on what it offers up front. Recommended if that’s what you need right now.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: fiction Tagged With: fun, science fiction

“Lady Eve’s Last Con” by Rebecca Fraimow

November 2, 2024 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Recommended to me by: Luzula

I loved the world-building in this book. Humanity has dispersed to the stars, and brought corporate greed, income inequality, and the need for insurance along, not to mention complex social politics. These people are so rich that they create a white sand beach complete with ocean and waves on a satellite.

There are characters of African and Asian descent and their presence is taken for granted in high society, so at least that has improved in this future world. Names are multicultural, with a wealthy family named Mendez-Yuki. The main character goes undercover as Evelyn Ojukwu, a socialite from a distant planet. Judaism and its cultural and religious rules play a role in the plot, to my delight.

The book centers capable women, with men as annoying hindrances or servants. LGBT relationships are apparently looked at askance, but a budding romance between the main character and another super-competent woman is a main focus of the plot.

The other focus is revenge. The main character is a con artist. Lying is what she does for a living, and she’s good at it. There is some judgement of con artists in the book, but overall the main character takes it for granted that it’s a fine thing to do, which bothered me.

I’m not quite the target audience for this book, but it was well-written, inclusive, and the plot moved right along. Recommended if this is your kind of thing.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: fiction Tagged With: fun, science fiction

“I’m Afraid You’ve Got Dragons” by Peter S. Beagle

October 20, 2024 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Recommended to me by: being a longtime fan of Peter Beagle’s work

Long ago, I read and loved Peter Beagle’s books “The Last Unicorn” and “Folk of the Air.” Later there were a string of books I didn’t like as much, but I see that I liked Summerlong back in 2016. This is his latest book, new in 2024.

“I’m Afraid You’ve Got Dragons” starts out with a main character with the quirky profession of dragon exterminator in a standard medieval fantasy setting . Then it intentionally and delightfully subverts all the expectations that come along with that setting. At 18, the main characters are grown adults, not children being sent on adventures. Their parents are very much present, complex characters in their own right. Women characters have as much strength and autonomy as the men, if not more. Men have emotions and tenderness right along with the women.

The book is complete in itself, and I would love to see a sequel in the same world. My only complaint is that it was over too soon.

Highly recommended.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: fiction Tagged With: fantasy, fun

“You Just Don’t Understand” by Deborah Tannen, Ph.D.

August 31, 2024 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Subtitle: Women and Men in Conversation

Recommended to me by: a friend

My friend was telling me about a gathering where one person had a knee injury. All the women who stopped to chat with the injured person asked how she was doing and how she had gotten injured. All the men talked about their own knee injuries or other injuries they had experienced. My friend said the men were trying to save the injured person’s pride and equalize status by saying they had gotten injured too. I sputtered that that was a very generous interpretation, but I didn’t necessarily agree. She recommended this book.

The book was published in 1990, and it shows. There is an updated edition from 2007, but I got the older edition from the library.

Tannen’s thesis is that women talk to support intimacy, and men talk to compete for status. The first half of the book has many examples, without ever mentioning sexism or cultural influences, not to mention non-binary people. Men protect their independence at the same time as women are trying to build connection, causing discord in heterosexual relationships.

Just about when I was going to stop reading in frustration, Tannen says that Italian preschoolers of any gender debate heatedly with each other, because that is what Italian culture teaches and expects. She also talks about New York Jewish culture, where both women and men are more direct and outspoken, and less direct people interpret that as being rude and pushy.

Then she talks about sexism, where men who are direct and authoritative are interpreted as being powerful and appropriately masculine, whereas women are seen as overstepping their bounds and being arrogant or aggressive. She talks about how the press talked about Geraldine Ferraro in disparagingly gendered terms “but they didn’t mean to.” I wonder if she wanted to retract that generous interpretation after seeing how the press treated Hillary Clinton.

At the very end, she says that she is not advocating for anyone to change their style, but to keep in mind these differences and be open to believing in people’s good intentions. Like any less-dominant group, I think women already understand the status-oriented style quite well, and men need to pick up the slack by learning to work better with a collaborative style.

The book does have a few nods toward Not All Men, and Not All Women. It mentions gay and lesbian relationships once that I noticed. It has a terribly racist description of communication styles in a Mayan community in Mexico that I can only hope is improved in the 2007 edition.

My friend did a great job of summarizing the primary takeaway of the book (women talk for connection, men talk for status). It’s a useful thing to listen for.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: nonfiction Tagged With: communication, psychology, relationship

“May We Forever Stand” by Imani Perry

July 15, 2024 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Subtitle: A History of the Black National Anthem

Recommended to me by: Jesse the K

The author Dr. Imani Perry was at the time of publication in 2018 the Hughes-Rogers Professor of African American Studies at Princeton University. Wikipedia says that in addition to a Ph.D., she has a J.D. from Harvard Law School. As of 2023, she is now a professor at Harvard.Her book is a carefully researched and engagingly written in-depth historical study of the song “Lift Every Voice and Sing” as it has been intertwined with Black Americans’ creation of a rich community life and struggles for civil rights.

The song was written by brothers James Weldon Johnson (lyrics) and John Rosamond Johnson (music) in 1900 in Jacksonville, Florida. The song spread among the many Black formal and informal community associations and was soon named the Black National Anthem.

It was sung at all-Black schools as part of nurturing the pride and sense of self of the students. It was woven into plays created to educate children and adults alike about the struggles and achievements of Black Americans. It created solidarity and hope.

The book contains enough content for a semester course on Black American History from the end of the Civil War through to the 1980s, with “Lift Every Voice and Sing” tying it all together.

Highly recommended.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: nonfiction Tagged With: activism, anti-racism, politics, spirituality, survival story

“Discount Armageddon: InCryptid 1” by Seanan McGuire

May 29, 2024 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Recommended to me by: Sean Eric Fagan’s Kindle giveaway @wandering.shop

This urban fantasy is not at all my kind of book, with a hard-boiled first person narrative and a lot of violence. I nearly put it down a couple of times, but kept reading because I have some time on my hands and the plot kept humming along. In the end, there was less dance involved than I hoped for at the beginning. It’s great that the main character is a woman, although the male side character is the one who grows and changes.

While the main character’s parents seem loving and involved in her life, raising child soldiers is still child abuse.

I appreciate the anti-xenophobia message of the book. At the same time, I wonder why none of the characters in New York City read as Black (thank goodness the monsters don’t read as Black) and some of the non-humans read very much like exoticized Asian women.

This is the first in a long series of InCryptid books with “discount” themed titles, per the InCryptid page on Seanan McGuire’s website, good news if they’re your kind of thing.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: fiction Tagged With: fun, science fiction

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