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“Childhood’s End” by Arthur C. Clarke

April 12, 2025 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Recommended to me by: Seeing it in a Little Free Library and recognizing the title

I read this as a teen when I was inhaling all the science fiction and fantasy I could lay my hands on. Several decades later, I vaguely remembered the ouija board scene and the ending, but didn’t remember they went with this book.

The book is beautifully written in spare, expressive prose that pulls the reader forward without the need for extreme violence. The whole book is understated, “civilized,” to go with the calming, “civilizing” influence of the aliens. From a more experienced adult viewpoint, I can see some of the subtle manipulation that underlies the plot

The book is also entirely focused on men. Even the aliens go by “he” and mirror the men in business suits they’re interacting with. There are two women in the book, wives of more active characters, and they do not pass the Bechdel test.

There is a wholly unnecessary invention of some reverse racism so that it can be punished more severely than anything else. Reminded me of Heinlien’s “Farnham’s Freehold,” which even as a bored teen I only read once.

“Childhood’s End” was published in 1953. The world’s ills that it was trying to address feel very relevant 70 years later. Without aliens to put a stop to people gathering power and resources to misuse them, it has only gotten worse. And the aliens are in a hierarchy themselves.

Recommended if you don’t mind a book trying to address the harms of patriarchy with a very patriarchal gaze.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: fiction Tagged With: fun, science fiction

“If the Buddha Married” by Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D.

April 6, 2025 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Subtitle: Creating Enduring Relationships on a Spiritual Path
Recommended to me by: Seeing it in a Little Free Library and liking If the Buddha Dated

I chose Love as my word for this year, so this book feels appropriate to pick up. I tried reading “How to Love” by Thich Nhat Hanh earlier, and got bogged down in the prescriptiveness and assumptions about gender roles, so I put it down halfway through. This book doesn’t have those problems, although all the couples appear to be heterosexual until one at the very end of the book.

Charlotte Karl writes with clarity, depth, and kindness. When I was getting toward the end of the book, I thought, “Surely that’s the end of the substantive material,” but there were several more important topics, all treated with the same thoughtfulness as the rest of the book – sexuality, monogamy, honesty, and affairs.

Other topics include working through tension and resistance, recognizing masks, keeping agreements with great care, living in an “us” place (rather than me vs. you), open communication, and offering appreciation. It also includes some of the things that get in the way of authentic relationships, such as reacting out of unprocessed trauma from a young self, projecting feelings onto the other person, taking the partner for granted, and trying to change them into someone else.

The book is grounded in Zen Buddhism, and tries to be inclusive of other religions, such as the Quakers. There is a clunker of a moment where Charlotte Karl refers to the Jewish philosophy of repentance and repair in connection with Rosh Hashanah (new year) instead of Yom Kippur (day of atonement). Where was her editor?! She summarizes in a few paragraphs what Danya Ruttenberg explores in depth in her book “On Repentance and Repair.” (I read half of that recently, but it was more academic than I wanted, and focused at the national rather than the personal level.)

It’s good to read stories of couples who are kind, committed, and most of all, successful at building happy lives together while being their authentic selves. I have wanted a relationship like that for a long time. I had more or less decided that what I want is a mirage. Now I’m reminded that maybe it is possible, although I still don’t know a path to bring it into my life.

Highly recommended if you also care about the how and why of authentic relationships.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: nonfiction Tagged With: communication, psychology, relationship, spirituality

“Somebody I Used to Know” by Wendy Mitchell

March 3, 2025 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Subtitle: A Memoir
Recommended to me by: a friend

Wendy Mitchell is a vibrant, strong, smart woman, proud of her memory, her home renovations, and her two now-adult daughters whom she raised on her own. At age 57, she starts to feel fatigued and confused, and falls unexpectedly several times while running.

She has what appears to be a small stroke, and is diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s soon afterward at age 58. She is determined to remain independent as long as possible and uses multiple alarms on her iPad throughout her day to remind her to do tasks like make food, and then eat the food she made.

After being forced to retire from her beloved NHS job for ill health, she becomes an activist for people with dementia, participating in research and giving talks on her experience. She has to write out her talks in advance, map out her travels by public transit, and print photos of where she’ll be staying.

The book is absorbing on the level of getting to know Wendy and her story, as well as on the level of learning more about the effects of Alzheimer’s and how to live well after being diagnosed.

Highly recommended.

She wrote two books after this one and kept a blog, Which Me Am I Today.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: nonfiction Tagged With: aging, disability, memoir, psychology, survival story

“The Serviceberry” by Robin Wall Kimmerer

January 18, 2025 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Subtitle: Abundance and Reciprocity in the Natural World
Recommended to me by: Reading Kimmerer’s other books

Robin Wall Kimmerer is an Indigenous scientist, writer, and teacher. She shares the gathered wisdom of her Potawatomi tribe, along with her knowledge of the ins and outs of academia as a botanist.

She compares the Indigenous gift economy, which is in harmony with the natural world, to capitalist economics that try to extract maximum value, wrecking the natural world. The book is small and brief, 100 pages, illustrated with pen and ink drawings.

The serviceberry bush has many names because it is important to many communities and cultures. The berries are eaten fresh, and dried to make pemmican for travel and winter months. Birds also feast on the berries. Their abundant berries lead to gratitude, which leads to reciprocity and paying it forward, which feeds the cycle of life. A specific instance of picking serviceberries described in vivid detail provides a rich scaffold for considering how we can learn from plants and live better.

How can we grow gift economies within and alongside the capitalist system? There are already little free libraries, tool libraries, neighborhood food banks, trash nothing and buy nothing online groups, and neighborhood organizations for mutual aid.

This book is a joyful celebration of all of those, along with a careful, encouraging exploration of a positive direction to replace the negative of capitalism. The more we can each support our local gift economies, the more joy and sustainability we bring into our lives.

Highly recommended.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: nonfiction Tagged With: activism, finance, food, illustrated, natural world, politics, spirituality

“Bea Wolf” by Zach Weinersmith and Boulet

January 18, 2025 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Recommended to me by: gift from a friend

An epic in graphic novel form, aimed at kids but with an adult level of detail and complexity. Divided into sections called fitts, full of sonorous alliteration, the book first introduces a few characters, then sets the background, then describes the conflict between the joyful kids in their treehouse hall and terrible Mr. Grindle who can cast the curse of adulthood with a single touch.

The art along with the story is dark and dramatic. The group of kids is drawn as a wonderful multi-cultural mix, and both boys and girls have agency and can be the king. Young children will love the story’s heaps of freely available candy and soda and games, safe from parental rules. It would be a fun book to read aloud.

Recommended to enjoy with kids!

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: art, fiction Tagged With: childrens, fun, illustrated

“Bookshop Witch” by T. Thorn Coyle

November 30, 2024 by Sonia Connolly Leave a Comment

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Subtitle: A Seashell Cove Paranormal Mystery
Recommended to me by: T. Thorne Coyle

This is described as a cozy mystery, so there is some tension and action, but the focus is on comforting relationships, shared meals, and respites from danger. The Oregon Coast setting is described with lots of evocative sensory details. The main character is in her late twenties, owns a bookshop, is a witch, and in some ways is still figuring out who she wants to be when she grows up.

Women in this book have a lot of strength and agency. The men are generally in supporting roles, although some of them are powerful as well. The cast of characters is diverse in skin color, sexual orientation, gender (one explicitly non-binary being), age, and species (magical beings too). People are generally inclusive, with some gentle calling in when they are oblivious to differences.

It’s a light, quick read. Recommended if that’s what you’re looking for.

Available at bookshop.org.

Filed Under: fiction Tagged With: fantasy, fun

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